Boundaries are far more important and a lot easier to enforce if you set them for yourself and not for others. This leaves no room for the narcissist and gaslighters out there; the people who try to hold themselves to a different standard and they feel they are entitled to get away with things, they would be critical of, if they saw someone else doing it. There are certain non-negotiables that everyone needs, for how they’re treated, to maintain a level of self-respect and dignity. Make it habit to hold yourself to a standard, not set different standards for different people over just how much they are allowed to disrespect you. Fun is fun and relationships have different dynamics but there needs to be a hard line for anything coming at you out of malice. What do you think? Do you set different standards for what people get away with or are you all in all…not having it?
